- Dim Nov 08, 2009 2:08 pm
#85343
A méditer :
[quote]I should get honorary degrees for Challenge - Doc Love.
In every union there is a mystery, a certain invisible bond that must not be disturbed - Amiel.
Challenge better than catnip or rhino horn, Grasshopper - Chinese proverb.
It took twenty years to invent The “System.” The basic principles remain the same, but their applications continue to grow. Principles get reinforced with time expand. It is like putting more ornaments on the same branches of the Christmas tree, or in this case, adding to and reinforcing tenets of the Truth Triangle.
The last principle to complete The “System” was the male strentgh quality, Challenge. The reason Challenge took so long and was so hard for me to discover was because no woman actually used the word, and only a few even slightly alluded to it.
(It’s no wonder Freud coudn’t discover what a woman wants! Challenge, guys, is what the woman wants. Plus it is the only drug that will keep her. She will not know which end is up! But it take guts and hard work to master.)
Here is the most ironic part: Once I started using the word Challenge in my interviewing and questioning, women knew exactly what I was talking about, but unless I did say the word Challenge, she would never bring it up.
I would ask a woman, “What do you like in man?” Women would never answer, “I love a Challenge. I like a guy more, if I have to chase him or work to get him.” The “”experts”” and Feministas could not have that - now could they?
I only stumbled across Challenge by accident by probing with improved interviewing techniques (love cop!). The first incident was when Caprice kept saying that Tom was exciting by his “inaction.” “He was mysterious and I always wondered where I stood. He didn’t chase me like I was used to.” Intellectually, she said she didn’t like it, but when I asked, “So, why didn’t you dump him?” She replied, “I kinda’ liked it. He was different(So much for language and logic!).” “He kept me on my toes, so I married him.” I’m muttering under my breath, “What is she talking about?”
After what she said sank in, two other big questions hit me, “What if the man, who is the aggressor and faces the possibility of rejection, could somehow reverse the process? What if women really didn’t know that they responded to Challenge in a relationship unless it was pointed out to them or better yet, done to them?”
The second incident that happened to uncover the concept of Challenge had to do with handling of the phone properly in relationships. In sales, the phone is used to set up a meeting - not to give out information. But in dating, the phone becomes her favorite weapon (control device) of choice. Men should realize that the phone is to only set a date, not to give interviews. Now she won’t get rid of you because of the extended phone conversation. Why? Because you are not going to give her the chance. Get on the phone; ask for the date, say, “See you then,” and get off the phone.
I asked Caprice, “How long after a guy takes your home phone number do you want him to call?” “Every guy calls (predictably) within two days,” she answered. “Another question,” I persisted, “If I got your home phone number, how long after would you want me to call?” “As soon as possible. Then I would decide, whether or not I wanted to go out.” “Caprice, what if I got your home phone number, and I didn’t call you for five to nine days?” “If I liked you, I would be a little mad, and think you were playing games.” “What games, Caprice?” I asked. A blank stare coveredher face. Then she added, “I wouldn’t like it, but if I had interest, I would accept the date.”
Here is the best part, guys: “Caprice, would you be thinking about me during those five to nine days?” “Yes, if I liked you.” she said. “Caprice, what would be happening to your Interest Level?” “I never thought about it that way, because no one has ever done it. But if a guy waited, and I was thinking about him, it would have a positive effect on my feelings.” There you go, right from Pussycat's mouth!
Challenge is like money on the bank that works for you while you are asleep - it grows. If she cannot see you, you cannot lower her feelings.
Challenge is the test (our turn!) that shows a man whether she really cares (has Interest Level) in him. It has such an impact on her, due to her rising emotions, that she won't be able to understand (great!) what is going on this dance of love. Now, for the first time in her life, she becomes the aggressor (The tables are turned!), and she has to do the chasing, and fear the possibility of rejection. I guess you know what all this does to her Interest Level?
If she is going after you, she can't be getting rid of you any more than she can sit down and stand up at the same tiem. You go in slowly, stop, and back up slowly and she goes bananas!
Most men don't get that if you play hard to get, wich is teasing on purpose in the woman's eyes (not yours), the woman cannot lose Interst Level, because she will see you as fun and different to be with (remember, they are not like us!). Just the thought of it scares most (timid) men. If she has 51% Interest Level or higher, you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. Only structured women who do not like to play or women with low Interest Level won't respond, so The System protect you by weeding out the dictators, users and losers.
So man feel that the women will get the impression that maybe you don't like her (good!). But the Reality Factor says when she's not sure of herself like she has always been in the past, she will go creazy and will like you more. Think of it, here is someone who understands man and she is confused -isn't this great!
If you discuss Challenge with your friends, they will not have a clue as what you're talking about -so do not waste your time. This concept is what separate me from the other "love doctors". Don't look for any validation on this fact of life, except from your honest sister.
Challenge is the biggest part of relationships that is missing today. It is the lost key of the mating dance. In America, you will never woman say, "I dumpet him because he was a Challenge and thus never boring."
The key is, Challenge is one-third of what turns a woman on and keeps her on. Challenge only works on Interest Level that is 51% or (preferably way) higher. Remember, she can't dump you while is chasing you - have you got the guts to be all that you can be hanging back?
[quote]I should get honorary degrees for Challenge - Doc Love.
In every union there is a mystery, a certain invisible bond that must not be disturbed - Amiel.
Challenge better than catnip or rhino horn, Grasshopper - Chinese proverb.
It took twenty years to invent The “System.” The basic principles remain the same, but their applications continue to grow. Principles get reinforced with time expand. It is like putting more ornaments on the same branches of the Christmas tree, or in this case, adding to and reinforcing tenets of the Truth Triangle.
The last principle to complete The “System” was the male strentgh quality, Challenge. The reason Challenge took so long and was so hard for me to discover was because no woman actually used the word, and only a few even slightly alluded to it.
(It’s no wonder Freud coudn’t discover what a woman wants! Challenge, guys, is what the woman wants. Plus it is the only drug that will keep her. She will not know which end is up! But it take guts and hard work to master.)
Here is the most ironic part: Once I started using the word Challenge in my interviewing and questioning, women knew exactly what I was talking about, but unless I did say the word Challenge, she would never bring it up.
I would ask a woman, “What do you like in man?” Women would never answer, “I love a Challenge. I like a guy more, if I have to chase him or work to get him.” The “”experts”” and Feministas could not have that - now could they?
I only stumbled across Challenge by accident by probing with improved interviewing techniques (love cop!). The first incident was when Caprice kept saying that Tom was exciting by his “inaction.” “He was mysterious and I always wondered where I stood. He didn’t chase me like I was used to.” Intellectually, she said she didn’t like it, but when I asked, “So, why didn’t you dump him?” She replied, “I kinda’ liked it. He was different(So much for language and logic!).” “He kept me on my toes, so I married him.” I’m muttering under my breath, “What is she talking about?”
After what she said sank in, two other big questions hit me, “What if the man, who is the aggressor and faces the possibility of rejection, could somehow reverse the process? What if women really didn’t know that they responded to Challenge in a relationship unless it was pointed out to them or better yet, done to them?”
The second incident that happened to uncover the concept of Challenge had to do with handling of the phone properly in relationships. In sales, the phone is used to set up a meeting - not to give out information. But in dating, the phone becomes her favorite weapon (control device) of choice. Men should realize that the phone is to only set a date, not to give interviews. Now she won’t get rid of you because of the extended phone conversation. Why? Because you are not going to give her the chance. Get on the phone; ask for the date, say, “See you then,” and get off the phone.
I asked Caprice, “How long after a guy takes your home phone number do you want him to call?” “Every guy calls (predictably) within two days,” she answered. “Another question,” I persisted, “If I got your home phone number, how long after would you want me to call?” “As soon as possible. Then I would decide, whether or not I wanted to go out.” “Caprice, what if I got your home phone number, and I didn’t call you for five to nine days?” “If I liked you, I would be a little mad, and think you were playing games.” “What games, Caprice?” I asked. A blank stare coveredher face. Then she added, “I wouldn’t like it, but if I had interest, I would accept the date.”
Here is the best part, guys: “Caprice, would you be thinking about me during those five to nine days?” “Yes, if I liked you.” she said. “Caprice, what would be happening to your Interest Level?” “I never thought about it that way, because no one has ever done it. But if a guy waited, and I was thinking about him, it would have a positive effect on my feelings.” There you go, right from Pussycat's mouth!
Challenge is like money on the bank that works for you while you are asleep - it grows. If she cannot see you, you cannot lower her feelings.
Challenge is the test (our turn!) that shows a man whether she really cares (has Interest Level) in him. It has such an impact on her, due to her rising emotions, that she won't be able to understand (great!) what is going on this dance of love. Now, for the first time in her life, she becomes the aggressor (The tables are turned!), and she has to do the chasing, and fear the possibility of rejection. I guess you know what all this does to her Interest Level?
If she is going after you, she can't be getting rid of you any more than she can sit down and stand up at the same tiem. You go in slowly, stop, and back up slowly and she goes bananas!
Most men don't get that if you play hard to get, wich is teasing on purpose in the woman's eyes (not yours), the woman cannot lose Interst Level, because she will see you as fun and different to be with (remember, they are not like us!). Just the thought of it scares most (timid) men. If she has 51% Interest Level or higher, you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. Only structured women who do not like to play or women with low Interest Level won't respond, so The System protect you by weeding out the dictators, users and losers.
So man feel that the women will get the impression that maybe you don't like her (good!). But the Reality Factor says when she's not sure of herself like she has always been in the past, she will go creazy and will like you more. Think of it, here is someone who understands man and she is confused -isn't this great!
If you discuss Challenge with your friends, they will not have a clue as what you're talking about -so do not waste your time. This concept is what separate me from the other "love doctors". Don't look for any validation on this fact of life, except from your honest sister.
Challenge is the biggest part of relationships that is missing today. It is the lost key of the mating dance. In America, you will never woman say, "I dumpet him because he was a Challenge and thus never boring."
The key is, Challenge is one-third of what turns a woman on and keeps her on. Challenge only works on Interest Level that is 51% or (preferably way) higher. Remember, she can't dump you while is chasing you - have you got the guts to be all that you can be hanging back?
) je suis d'accord avec toi sur le fait qu'on devient un challenge sans vraiment le décider. Cependant, ton rejet de la préméditation et des actions réfléchies ne me convainc pas vraiment. Qui dit réflexion dit contrôle, et qui dit contrôle dit justesse.
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