- Jeu Fév 22, 2007 11:32 am
#3231
J'ai trouve un article interessant expliquant dans le detail comment terminer une relation longue avec un AFC. C'est d'une redoutable cruaute et vous y trouverez une liste a peu pres exhaustive des signes de baisse d'IL.
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Your-Overly- ... o-Dump-You
[quote]How to Get Your Overly Sensitive, Emo Boyfriend to Dump You
Afraid your boyfriend will cry too much if you say, "It's over"? Well this is how to get him to break up with you, so you don't feel guilty, and he doesn't cry.
Steps
Make sure you want the relationship to end. If you have any doubts about breaking up with him, try to fix the situation, not demolish it.
After you decide that you are tired of giving pity-parties every day, slowly start to distance yourself. When he tries to tell you about how horrible his day was, casually change the subject with something you suddenly remember you have to tell him. Don't do this too often though, as it will seem obvious then.
When he's trying to get you to give him sympathy, don't. Maybe you can just shrug and say "yeah, that sucks"... don't be too mean, but don't give him the shoulder-to-cry-on that he's wanting.
And if you do however end up being that shoulder that he needs to cry on... Stand there and hug him, but let him cry, don't say anything like 'Come here baby', or 'there there'. Just stand there emotionless, don't even THINK about bringing up conversation relating to what he is so upset over.
When he says "I love you", try not to say it back. If you've made a habit of saying it though, taper that off.
Become irritable and moody. Don't make it seem like it's his fault, but that you are just mad at the world and want to be alone cause you don't want to 'snap at him'... Do this more and more often if possible.
Stop being as affectionate. If he makes the initiative, don't make it obvious that you don't want to, but do not make the first move yourself.
Try not to talk to him. Make as least conversation as possible.
If he hates listening to stories about your previous partners, tell him loads, and add a bit of extras in to make him feel even more insecure.
Become busy with everything except him. Spend as much time at work as you can, or with family... Because after all that work, of course you only want to go to bed.
At this point, your boyfriend should be quite annoyed and sad with where this relationship is going, and is probably having a lot of 'depressed' moments himself. When he finally goes to break up with you though... Apply the following:
Just be quiet and listen when he is talking, don't interrupt him or make arguments.
When he makes statements about his confusion regarding your attitude and behavior, don't offer an explanation, just shrug and say you don't understand it either.
Don't cry. C'mon, you knew this was coming, so even if it does hurt your feelings, keep a straight face and deal with it. He's the emo one here, isn't he?
Don't smile either. Victory may be at hand, but you need to finish the battle first.
Do not console him. Don't hug him and say this is probably for the best, and don't do "one last kiss".
With the breakup done, get out of there as fast as you can. If he tries to call or get back with you, maintain that icy heart that you've had since the start of this quest, but stay nice about it all.
Tips
Try not to crack! If you feel bad about what you are doing, remind yourself that in the end, he'll be doing the dumping, and therefore should feel a little less hurt.
As with all break-ups... Don't try spending time with him afterwards. Months, even years may be necessary before you can rekindle any friendship you might want to have.
Warnings
If your guy is suicidal or on medication, make sure he's taken the med.
It's probably best not to do the break up in public... If he needs to cry, best let him do it in private so he isn't embarrassed.
If he is considering suicide, be extra careful and seek outside assistance.
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Your-Overly- ... o-Dump-You
[quote]How to Get Your Overly Sensitive, Emo Boyfriend to Dump You
Afraid your boyfriend will cry too much if you say, "It's over"? Well this is how to get him to break up with you, so you don't feel guilty, and he doesn't cry.
Steps
Make sure you want the relationship to end. If you have any doubts about breaking up with him, try to fix the situation, not demolish it.
After you decide that you are tired of giving pity-parties every day, slowly start to distance yourself. When he tries to tell you about how horrible his day was, casually change the subject with something you suddenly remember you have to tell him. Don't do this too often though, as it will seem obvious then.
When he's trying to get you to give him sympathy, don't. Maybe you can just shrug and say "yeah, that sucks"... don't be too mean, but don't give him the shoulder-to-cry-on that he's wanting.
And if you do however end up being that shoulder that he needs to cry on... Stand there and hug him, but let him cry, don't say anything like 'Come here baby', or 'there there'. Just stand there emotionless, don't even THINK about bringing up conversation relating to what he is so upset over.
When he says "I love you", try not to say it back. If you've made a habit of saying it though, taper that off.
Become irritable and moody. Don't make it seem like it's his fault, but that you are just mad at the world and want to be alone cause you don't want to 'snap at him'... Do this more and more often if possible.
Stop being as affectionate. If he makes the initiative, don't make it obvious that you don't want to, but do not make the first move yourself.
Try not to talk to him. Make as least conversation as possible.
If he hates listening to stories about your previous partners, tell him loads, and add a bit of extras in to make him feel even more insecure.
Become busy with everything except him. Spend as much time at work as you can, or with family... Because after all that work, of course you only want to go to bed.
At this point, your boyfriend should be quite annoyed and sad with where this relationship is going, and is probably having a lot of 'depressed' moments himself. When he finally goes to break up with you though... Apply the following:
Just be quiet and listen when he is talking, don't interrupt him or make arguments.
When he makes statements about his confusion regarding your attitude and behavior, don't offer an explanation, just shrug and say you don't understand it either.
Don't cry. C'mon, you knew this was coming, so even if it does hurt your feelings, keep a straight face and deal with it. He's the emo one here, isn't he?
Don't smile either. Victory may be at hand, but you need to finish the battle first.
Do not console him. Don't hug him and say this is probably for the best, and don't do "one last kiss".
With the breakup done, get out of there as fast as you can. If he tries to call or get back with you, maintain that icy heart that you've had since the start of this quest, but stay nice about it all.
Tips
Try not to crack! If you feel bad about what you are doing, remind yourself that in the end, he'll be doing the dumping, and therefore should feel a little less hurt.
As with all break-ups... Don't try spending time with him afterwards. Months, even years may be necessary before you can rekindle any friendship you might want to have.
Warnings
If your guy is suicidal or on medication, make sure he's taken the med.
It's probably best not to do the break up in public... If he needs to cry, best let him do it in private so he isn't embarrassed.
If he is considering suicide, be extra careful and seek outside assistance.
La conquête des femmes est la seule aventure exaltante dans la vie d'un homme.
Guy de Maupassant
Guy de Maupassant
